Caring for, raising grandchildren
Some say grandparenting is the best job on earth. You get to see the young ones when you want and leave whenever you want. Unless you are one of the thousands of grandparents who were unexpectedly thrust back into the role of parent.
If this does happen, and it appears as if it may be more than a temporary situation, consider hiring an attorney to be sure that you have full legal custody of the children. When you are the court-appointed guardian, you now possess the full legal right to do as a parent would do.
It’s usually a very sad or tragic story. Could have been a premature and uninsured death, permanent disability, substance abuse or a horrible financially depleting divorce. Whatever the cause, your life changes when you went from a retirement minded grandparent to the primary caregiver for grandchildren. To accommodate these changes, you may want to alter your financial plans.
Start with your cash flow. Do you have the assets to support children to the standard that you want for yourself and for them? From day to day living to a full university education?
Can you afford to hire help so that you may allocate some of your 168 hours each week to enjoy a sliver of your golden years just like you pictured it?
If the children are under 18, you’ll need to appoint guardians under your will. Especially in the case of an unfit parent or two, your choice of guardian needs to be binding and permanent. If any of the children are over age 18, be sure that they have their own valid legal forms such as a health care power of attorney or a durable general power so that you can act on their behalf. And if the parents of the child are unfit or unable to care for the children, they probably wouldn’t be good stewards for any of your assets.
You may need to change your insurance. If you are working and have the option to increase your life or disability insurance, this may be a good time to evaluate those options. Take a look at your personal coverage as well and make sure that you keep what your new needs would dictate.
In this case, you must consider protecting ways to preserve and pass down wealth so that the grandchildren have the best opportunity to succeed.
The most common method would be by a trust or trusts.
Here you can have the assets remain in an account that is overseen by someone that you select while you are alive. You also set the terms and conditions regarding how assets will find their way out of the trust and into the hands of the intended beneficiaries when they need them.
Because of the vast age difference between you and the grandchildren, these trusts may be most helpful if you restrict access to principal, permitting only discretionary distributions determined by the trustee.