Delaware women share their silly and creepy encounters from dating
One woman’s message read: “Why you not want kids for?” Another woman said she was warned Santa would kidnap her.
Three millennial women said those are examples of real pickup lines from online dating hopefuls.
Those examples are the tip of the iceberg of ridiculousness they’ve encountered in today’s cyber dating scene, the trio said.
Victim of catfishing
Alyssa Wlosinski, 25, of Milford, said she first began using dating apps over five years ago. Wlosinski said two of her relationships came from guys she met online, with the longest one lasting four years.
While between relationships, Wlosinski said, she’s used the apps Plenty Of Fish and OKCupid to find new companions. But what she got in return was more than she bargained for.
On two occasions, Wlosinski said, she was catfished - a popular trend on dating apps where a person lies about their identity and tries to con someone into a relationship or to hook up with them.
It’s common for catfish to create fictional dating profiles using photos of someone else.
Wlosinski said her catfish’s profile photo depicted a hot shirtless guy who looked like an Abercrombie & Fitch model.
“He had the perfect body and bone structure,” Wlosinski said. “I was patting myself on the back because he was the one who hit me up. But the more he hit me up, I was like, ‘that’s a catfish.’ I’m pretty, but I can’t reel in someone like that.”
Wlosinski said she became suspicious when her catfish claimed he didn’t have a Snapchat account, despite showing her a photo of himself that clearly used a Snapchat filter.
She said her catfish sent her a nude photo she didn’t expect, which she jokingly shared with her girlfriends.
Then, she said, her friends discovered an inconsistency between the nude shot and his profile picture.
“His nipples didn’t add up. They weren’t the same color; and the shape was different,” Wlosinski said. “He was caught by nipple fraud.”
Before that, her catfish kept trying to offer to take her on a date and wrote a message that stated: ‘Hypothetically, if I showed up and looked like someone else, but everything I said online was true, would you still be interested, or nah?”
The Milford woman said she responded in all caps: “NAH.”
Wlosinski said her catfish eventually showed her a real photo of himself. He was overweight and favored the actor Kevin James from the sitcom “The King of Queens,” she said.
“I told him politely: ‘You’re automatically lying out of the gate,”’ Wlosinski said. “But he was genuinely upset with me that I didn’t want to keep talking to him.”
Middletown woman bails
Danielle James, 29, is a native of Middletown, who now lives in Raleigh, N.C. She said she was catfished when she was in her early 20s and living in Pennsylvania.
Her catfish claimed to be in his late 20s. She agreed to meet him for a date at a local restaurant.
“Someone waved to me from the bar and it was not the person in the photograph who I was talking to online,” James said. “I mean, it was. But it wasn’t. His pictures had to be at least seven or eight years old. And it was a couple of pounds ago.”
Before the date, James said, she and a girlfriend decided on an escape plan in case her date didn’t pan out.
“She kind of made a joke – for me to text her a Christmas tree emoji,” James said. “And she said, ‘turn your volume up.’”
Her friend was supposed to see the emergency text message and call James during dinner, giving her an excuse to bail on her date, she said.
James said she still tried to give the guy a break, hoping they’d at least have a good conversation. But that went nowhere, she said.
“It really got to a point where I didn’t care if he seemed comfortable,” James said. “I was like, ‘Okay, the Christmas tree emoji is getting sent.’”
Audrey Greene, 25, of Dover, said she’s never been catfished. But she has run across a deceitful guy online.
Over the summer she tried out a dating app, but she wasn’t interested in any of the candidates in her area. So she stopped using it.
She said when she visited her cousin in North Carolina, who lives on a military base, she experienced something strange.
“All of a sudden, I started getting all of these notifications on the dating app. Then I realized I’m on a Marine base,” she said.
“It was funny,” Greene said, “because me and my cousin were looking through the profiles and she was like, ‘that guy’s married.’ So we just kept swiping through to see who else was on the app that she knew.”
James, an artist who creates neon signs, said catfishing motivated her to make a silly sign for her art show.
The show was titled “Signs of the Times: A Single Lady’s Life in Neon,” and it debuted in Raleigh last year.
It highlighted over a dozen of her neon artworks. Many featured funny phrases inspired by messages James (and her friends) received through online dating.
One sign, titled “You Seem Super Rad,” was a message she got from a guy on OKCupid.
James said the inception of her show came about when she told her boss about the funniest message she’s ever received on OKCupid. It came many years ago.
“I got this one message from somebody that said, ‘Why you not want kids for?’” James said, explaining the person was referring to a comment she made on her profile about not wanting children.
The guy didn’t introduce himself. He used that message as his opening line.
“I told my boss about it and said, ‘I think I want to make that into a sign,’” James said. “It was a joke. I said it out loud and he was like, ‘No, you have to. That’s a really good idea.’”
“Signs of the Times” was well received, James said. And “Why you not want kids for?” was her best seller.
“I think the response of the show has been overwhelmingly positive, especially with older people,” the 29-year-old artist said.
“Actually,” James said, “the first ‘Why you not want kids for?’ sign sold to a woman, who I believe is in her 60s; and she never had kids and she’s a badass woman who’s still tired of people asking why she never had kids.”
Wlosinski said one of her most hilarious messages came from a guy on Plenty Of Fish. He asked a bizarre question based on her username: Truepolishchick.
“I want to make a note that the man who sent this message was shirtless, overweight and was holding a spatula next to a stove,” Wlosinski said.
The Milford resident said the man’s message stated: “‘I’ve never met a stubbornly Polish person before. Does that mean that we would eat Kielbasa all the time? I would totally be down for that.”
Wlosinski said she didn’t respond and immediately blocked the guy.
Wlosinski said she reentered the dating scene last year. This past holiday season, another man sent her a really creepy message, she said.
“A guy sent me, verbatim, a message that said: ‘Excuse me. Don’t be alarmed if a big, fat, bearded man shows up to your doorstep tonight to kidnap you. I told Santa I want you for Christmas.’”
Wlosinski wasn’t impressed.
The man’s opening line “wasn’t even cute,” the 25-year-old said.
She did, however, burst into laughter while recalling a username she said that was from Plenty Of Fish: ThrowDat@ssInAPrayerCircle69.
“I think on his profile he said, ‘You can find me on Christian Mingle,’” Wlosinski said. “Dudes on dating apps just don’t care anymore. It’s an epidemic.”